i’m having a wonderful time meeting friends from my facebook profile. janie rah rah gibson has the most impossibly glamorous profile picture EVER!!! and she met me at a luncheon today where i tried to palm off northfield and winnetka history books on unsuspecting diners. after the luncheon, she and i talked about how i’m going to win ten thousand dollars finding a bride for an actuarial sweetpea:
janie was impossibly chic, in a vintage sweater dress she stole from her mother’s closet. i hadn’t realized it was through children’s theater that janie met my two sons. we talked about friendship . . .
janie explained something i had never understood: that when two galpals announce they are engaged or married to each other, it’s sometimes a signal that they are not attached. also, that there’s a hierarchy of relationships: going out, really going out, announcing it on facebook, and then i guess there’s marriage after that. . . . i’ve never changed my relationship status and don’t think i would unless it were legal in all fifty states. as for it’s complicated, that apparently is what you say when you’re about to break up. . .
her mother has an interesting idea about how friendship works. i thought about this. there are friends i don’t see for months at a time but i know it’s tight and there’s no apologies for absences. i know there are friends who are every day and it don’t matter. i have some friends that are from when i was in high school, some from when i was raising my children, and some i’ve only recently met.
i really like janie’s perspective, except i also think i want to lose forty pounds and steal clothes from her mother’s closet. also, i’m going to find a bride for tom. i want that ten thousand dollars!
a special thanks to kaveh, madeleine, connie, chief lustig, janie, charlie, gina, kevin, sean, libby, bill and paddy!
next up: i open a bottle of champagne with a sabre under the instruction of a sommelier-ette!
February 7th, 2012 at 8:27 pm
Thank you for your enlightenment on friendship.