it is very easy to let email, facebook, linkedin, skype, myspace, and twitter do the friendship work for you. you exchange news, seek advice, share gossip. and then when you make plans to get together, you wonder “when was the last time. . . ?” and it’s been five years. this is friendship pattern is especially true for people in theater. they can have really intense relationships while they’re working on a show and then things continue computerliciously until the next show.
stephanie hurovitz, f2fb friend #163, is a professional stage manager. she was the manager for eastman’s last play, oh, just about five years ago. when i asked her what she was passionate about, what she’d like to share with me, i never expected this. it’s her secret superpower and one day the world will be threatened by a meteor (or aliens or maniacal psychopaths or the collapse of the imf) and only stephanie can save us. . . .
stephanie was excited about my new years resolution but she confessed to a resolution that she had recently abandoned: to have thirty one dates before her thirty first birthday which is in february. she’s so busy juggling work commitments that seemed difficult. i understand why she gave up on it. but she had already gone on sixteen dates and it’s only just now reaching the halfway point on the year.
what if she readjusted the resolution so that she had to finish it by new years? that’s just fifteen dates!
by the way, i turned out to be sooooooooo great at tap. in face, i tap dance so fast you can’t even see my feet move!
the instructor, debra giunta of designdance, said i should consider the possibility of further lessons because tap dance is the easier for an old person to pick up as opposed to, say, ballet. as i leafed through a catalogue for wheelchairs and walkers, i watched debra and stephanie work through some steps.
for my new years resolution, i am astonished by the faith and encouragement i’ve been receiving, as well as “chaperone” and logistics help. i really appreciate everybody who opens up their homes, their tap dance lessons, their lives to me. so i want to do everything to help stephanie with her resolution. if you have anybody who would be a good candidate for mr. 16, mr. 17, mr. 18, etc., email their stats to me!
i’m off to see the first ex-wife of my first and only ex-husband. there’s a story about how grace, not facebook, brought us together!