while i was on the road heading into washington, d.c., i got a phone call from my facebook friend sarah. she lives with her parents in detroit and is a beautiful, funny gal with a big heart and a great future. sarah doesn’t leave her house and suffers with agoraphobia.

agoraphobia comes from the greek word phobia which means fear and agora which means marketplace or meeting place. the agora was the center of greek urban life and so someone who is agoraphobic quite literally is afraid of being out and about. this agora is pretty much in need of some renovations.
sarah is considering moving to texas to be with her boyfriend. what a wonderful future they might have. but sarah is worried about the eighteen hour drive. if it is difficult to leave the house to walk to the corner market, an eighteen hour trip is going to be a challenge. in her favor is that her boyfriend is an understanding and caring man and he will be driving (sarah doesn’t have a driver’s license).
i told her that she won’t be making an eighteen hour trip. she’ll be making a series of hour or two hour trips or maybe half hour trips, or maybe even fifteen minute trips. i asked her to consider purchasing an air card so that she can be connected to the internet and can distract herself by doing much of what she does when she’s at home.

the real secret for me is to make wherever i am my home, so that there is no agora to be scared of. here, some kids from the marine scouts program wash my house.
and of course, i invite some friends into my home.
sarah, you got this trip! you can travel because the whole world, well, it ain’t an oyster, it ain’t a small world after all, no, no, the world is YOUR home!
June 21st, 2014 at 2:17 am
Oh, no!! I just saw you were here. I’ll try to accept but just don’t know…Had it been two weeks ago you could’ve come with us to my 40th high school reunion out near Dulles. I went to a high school named for a civil war general (not Lee). Date: Fri, 20 Jun 2014 19:24:50 +0000 To: jpsvirginia@msn.com
June 21st, 2014 at 5:48 pm
were you at jeb stuart? because then you’d have been where my adorable and wonderful ex-husband went to school!