just a few hours before the beginning of the year 2011, i took a look at my facebook friends list and said “gee, who ARE all these people? and when was the last time i saw any of them?” i made a resolution to meet and spend time with each and every friend–all 325 of them–before the end of the year. it was quite a year.
but something i heard over and over from people was “are you crazy? you’re going to get yourself killed!”
whenever i met a facebook friend, if it was for the first time, i always made sure i had a chaperone or that i was in a public place. i NEVER met someone in my home or in their home. only one time was there an exception. . . .
so i wasn’t completely surprised by the news that the brooklyn orthodox jewish girls school beth rivkah asks its students to not use facebook. students who are discovered to have facebook accounts are ordered to delete them and pay a one hundred dollar fine. a firestorm of publicity has ensued in the past few weeks because several girls have been kicked out of the school for not adhering to the rule.
“girls are getting killed on the internet,” school administrator benzion stock told the new york post. “that’s the reason for it.”
he also added that facebook “is not a modest thing to do”, claiming the internet ruins marriages and families. i agree. girls are getting killed by people that they meet on the internet in unsafe situations. some marriages and families are destroyed by affairs that are begun as simple facebook friendships. but by that logic, we need to immediately get rid of other forms of communication, starting with . . .
maybe instead, people need to set up safeguards for themselves. which brings me to f2fb friend #309, the not at all dangerous martin ruffner. ruffner is a gentleman and, as such, it wouldn’t even dawn on him to ask me to meet him outside of a public place. in this case, libertyville’s jamaican hawaiian irish english restaurant firkin’s, for lunch. we arrived separately. we enjoyed a meal together and we talked about our children.
during last year, i was grateful to the many chaperones who made the trips possible! now i am on my way out the door to visit with facebook friends for whom i feel honored to pay it forward!