i have been so blessed with this project of meeting my facebook friends–and i have been working with facebook friend #306 oj dorson in creating an ebook about the experience! this weekend i headed for michigan and landed in coldwater. my facebook friends molly and jeff parshall live in coldwater and i’ve visited with both of them before. molly has agoraphobia and finds it difficult to leave the house. she’s made a lot of progress working on herself in the past few months. she even sent me a picture of herself at the nearby playground with her son blake!
but every personal transformation has some setbacks. jeez, i’m a six setbacks a day and eight victories person myself. sunday, we were thinking of going to the park as a quartet–blake, molly, jeff and me–but it didn’t work out. molly had to return home, to her “safe” place.
having any sort of disability, illness, quirk puts pressure on everybody else in the family. jeff is a strong, taciturn, family protective man who puts his energies into his work as a machinist and he went back to working around the house. molly sent me and blake off to the park. blake is a boy with a strong, generous heart and he asked if he could make a video for my blog.
we went home and he picked out eight more books! i know that i won’t see the parshalls at the party in winnetka but i know that they are part of the creation of this special day! and molly has no greater cheerleader than her son blake–he understands sometimes his mom can’t do things she wants to do, that he wants to do. he loves trains and has an ambition to take a train ride. i can’t wait for the day when i walk down to the winnetka train station and pick up the parshall family!
i am facebook friends with the parshalls. it’s important sometimes to come out from behind our technology and spend a day together. . . .
by the way, the invitation to the party–it benefits reach out and read illinois and the guest list is quite exclusive. . . it includes YOU!!!!
my facebook friends blake and molly made a collage that is the greatest "make my day" gift . . . i am so happy for them both!
i have had two beat myself up pajama days. can’t move days. it’s very easy to get completely down on myself and then i’m just not able to move. at all. i did get out briefly yesterday with no permanent tissue damage and i intended today to be a full throttle okay world i’m here come at me with all you got day.
but i was nervous last night going to sleep, thinking about the possibility that i might wake up and just not have it in me. then i got a puzzling text from f2fb (face to facebook) friend #294 molly parshall. i’ve visited her twice in coldwater, michigan. she is like a daughter to me and i worry because she has spent a lot of pajama days in her home. we’ll call them pajama months. okay, maybe years.
last night, she texted me that there was a big surprise in my facebook mailbox. this morning, this picture is what i found. she did it, she absolutely positively did it! out of the house, out to the park, playing with her son blake. like any other mother, she will do anything to make her son smile!!!
damn, i wish i would have been there! but this picture she sent me is the next bestest thing!
yesterday, i went to coldwater, where i met f2fb friend #294 molly parshall. she was with her husband jeff, who is my f2fb friend #300. molly last month made a commitment to change some things about how she lives. namely, how she stays in her house. she is a smart, motivated woman who is going to one day change the world. but right now she’s just about changing herself. this is how she took charge of things a month ago. . .
from a distance, using only facebook and an occasional phone call to check in, i wasn’t too sure how molly was doing. i think she had focused more on sharing with me the times she hadn’t been able to do what she set out to do rather than on how much she’s actually done. i was really wowed when i came to the parshall home on the river’s edge. she was so happy and cheerful and i got to meet jeff for the first time. jeff works at the local foundry but had the day off. i took a chance–i asked to drive with her and jeff to the train station. we got there. yeah, sure, she had a big anxiety attack and we had to turn around, but we made it to the station. i’m so damn proud of molly and i’m so amazed at the love and support of her husband jeff.
after we got back from the train station we three walked down to the river in back of their house. i can't wait for the day when molly and jeff visit me in chicago!
the afternoon was a delight and i left with a huge smile. but i had the ohio turnpike to contend with. and that is no fun whatsoever. now i am napping in a hotel in ohio before making the push to drive into pennsylvania. . .