i was eating an omelette and sausage and thinking “damn these extra pounds” and i looked up at the television screen and, well, every restaurant has a television screen these days. .. .
i wish i knew enough technology that i could just paste it on here like i do most videos. it’s been a very affirming day but also a troubling one. the affirming part is that my hair looks okay. troubling that i have a developing double chin.
oh, whoops, that’s not quite it.
today is about YOU and your resolution. tomorrow i make my new years resolution–okay, i’m a little late–but you should already have written it down, announced it to your friends (i count!!!!), and you should feel a little weirded out. it has to be big.
did you know that 36% of people who make new years resolutions have broken them by the end of january. but i think that’s because the resolutions aren’t specific enough. don’t say “i’m giving up smoking”. . . . say “i will smoke this number of cigarettes in january and this much fewer in february. . . “. . .
but here’s the good news: contrary to everything you’ve heard, if you get past january 31, you have a better than average chance of making it. so whatever you’re doing, keep at it. and whatever you’re doing, be specific about the goal. i have a twin resolution this year. one is this: to lose ten pounds. because during my year of seeing every facebook friend, i gained ten pounds. let’s be honest. a guy can gain weight it gives him gravitas. a girl gains weight it makes her pudgy.
this morning great america.
tomorrow, i will be on dr. drew. i had no idea who he was. i confused him with dr. phil.
January 11th, 2012 at 5:10 am
I wasn’t going to make any resolutions, but I’ve decided to do so after seeing your inspiring blog. Some background is that I spent a week and a half in December in partial hospitalization program for my depression.
So I am going to take care of myself.
I’m going to brush my teeth every day (this is actually something I’ve struggled with)
I’m going to brush my hair daily
I’m going to get some form of exercise atleast three times a week
Atleast once a week I’m going to do something relaxing for myself
January 11th, 2012 at 5:33 am
these are excellent resolutions. i hope that you get yourself a datebook (or calendar). something with paper. i have a calendar that has a page for every day. so every day i write down my weight (argh) and what exercise i have done. and then you also need to program in some rewards and it sounds like you’re figuring once a week. i want to hear back from you. i want to hear about the rewards you program in. i have trouble figuring out how to reward myself. much love and encouragement.
January 11th, 2012 at 5:59 am
Arlynn, my boyfriend whom I love dearly suffers from agoraphobia. It went away but it came back with a vengeance three weeks ago. I haven’t seen him since then. He is slowly trying to get out of the house and drive around but sometimes I feel like there is no way I can help him. How can I keep up my strength and help him get through his agoraphobia?
January 11th, 2012 at 6:28 am
be supportive. find ways that you can be the “safe” person to get him from one place to another. but recognize that you have your own needs too. i feel for you!
January 11th, 2012 at 5:09 pm
Thank you for your advice! Your story is very inspirational and I showed my boyfriend it, too. He’s been trying to get out of the house more often and going out for drives. He can get a few miles away now which is better than before when he couldn’t get out of his block. He’s going through therapy but thinking about medications. Do you think that would be helpful, too or just stick with therapy? And as far as me being supportive, I try my best to be and be there for him as much as I can but sometimes I feel as though it falls apart because his parents and mine don’t see it as a problem. Its difficult for me to be there 100% for him and as well take care of my needs. There are days when I just really need him to give me a hug but he can’t be there and its disheartening. I want to see a light at the end of this tunnel but there are days when I can’t really see that and some days that I definitely can.
thank you for all of your help and I will definitely keep reading about your story!
January 11th, 2012 at 6:12 am
Hi! I saw your story this morning on GMA and was deeply inspired. I am in the same boat as you were for many many years. I would like to send you a private email if possible. I tried to find you on FB with no luck. I would love to share my story with you and get your feedback when you have a moment. Looking forward to seeing your interview with Dr. Drew tomorrow as well. Thank you for stepping out and sharing your story to inspired all of us who struggle with this disorder and also to raise awareness and show us there is always hope. Thanks again!
January 11th, 2012 at 6:27 am
on facebook, i’m arlynn presser but i usually respond here better. i’m a little nervous about dr. drew. i will keep in mind that some viewers, like you, will be “rooting” for me to do well and not screw up! and then i will be starting my next resolution!!!