so last year right around this time i couldn’t leave the house. i was scared. i had scared myself witless by making a new years eve resolution to meet all 325 of my facebook friends.
so i hope you have made a resolution. something about yourself that you want to change. something that defeats you, makes you feel like you’re not as good as others, that paralyzes you. i want you to figure out a specific goal that will show you once and for all that you are strong. make it a very specific goal and write it down. and then go tell every one of your friends. . . some of them will laugh, some of them will shrug their shoulders like it’s no big deal.
but some of your friends already know what this means to you. and they are the ones who will tell you that you CAN!
i want to know your resolution. you can email me, you can comment, you can friend me on facebook and tell me about it. but i want to know what it is. and if it’s that you want to leave your house, i want you to tell me too!
one of my new facebook friends messaged me that his sister is getting married in march. he’s housebound and most of his family assumes he won’t be able to go to the wedding. much less dance at the wedding. which is something he’d really like to do. i hope he emails me today to tell me that he has visualized himself having fun at the reception, or that he’s visited the website of the church so that he’s familiar with the layout, or even that he called his sister and asked her to show him some of her wedding preparations. just one thing. tomorrow is soon enough for step two.
i spent the first week of january last year unsure of what to do to reach my goal. to visit a friend in the philippines? to see someone in nome, alaska? to travel to new york city? 325 friends, all in one year? time for the blindfold.
pick one small thing you can do today and write down immediately what you did. and tell me about it.
the first day i started working on my resolution, i visited one friend. my younger son eastman. we went out onto the front porch and smoked cigarettes. i know, not a very good thing for a mom to do but i really felt that i was getting one step closer. just 324 more friends, i thought.
so pick the first step for today. one tiny tiny thing that gets you an inch closer to your goal.
my goal this year is to take what i learned about last year and make this YOUR year. to write and share about my experiences. to give back what my friends gave me in 2011, namely their support and their time and their energy.
so tell me about your goal, tell me about what you did today.