and a challenge for you:
this year has been a year of losses, most particularly the loss of my best friend which occurred last week. but counting up my losses is not as productive as counting blessings. my new friend boris certainly knows about counting blessings.
in 2011, i made a new year’s resolution to spend the year visiting each and every facebook friend i had at the time. it was a fun year, a year of discovery, a year of having to push my boundaries. 325 friends? oh, yeah, and 13 countries and just about every state in the nation. being an agoraphobic who has difficulty leaving the house it was a challenge. but it was also a pleasure because i got to be with friends, some of whom i had only known online, some of whom i hadn’t seen in decades, some of whom turned out to be, well, catfish.
this year, my resolution is to recover myself. and to do what my friend mark hashizume calls self-care. so every day i will do and blog about an act intentionally meant to care for myself. i ask you, i challenge you, to do the same with me. we all have had tough years–i have a friend who lost a husband to alzheimer’s. a friend who lost her five year old son to cancer. a friend whose son committed suicide. a friend who lost her home (oh, wait, i did too). and then there’s ryan gosling–
ryan, really, we both have to move on especially now that you and eva are becoming parents. think of her feelings! and the arlynn presser t-shirt isn’t going to make her feel strong and confident as she should! but truly, i understand your pain. i’ll always love you.
how do you self-care? how do you think should start self-care? and can we help each other self-care together?
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ryan is suffering. today’s my birthday and i’m not spending it with the most wonderful ex-boyfriend in the world.
he’s always sending me these messages because a perfect ex is very supportive! my exhusband maximillian is exactly the same way which makes him the second best ex ever!
today is my birthday. ordinarily, i would spend it with my ex husband just because he’s wonderful. unfortunately, it didn’t work out this year and so i briefly considered ryan. . .
ryan, really, we both have to move on especially now that you and eva are becoming parents. the arlynn presser t-shirt isn’t going to make her feel strong and confident as she should!
one wonderful thing about facebook (and twitter!) (and email!) and (text messaging!) is that people can say happy birthday without having to make a trip to the post office or even getting on the horn. i’ve had so many messages that i am only sad that i haven’t been able to keep up. but the messages make me feel loved and special and very much like i was wearing a tiara all day long! it made me realize that i should never pass up the opportunity to send a birthday greeeting. so thank you for making my day and this is coming to you from my heart!
i guess fifty cent now has grounds to sue me for butchering his song. sigh. or maybe you’re going to sue me for hurting your ears.
warner brothers owns the rights to the traditional “happy birthday to you” song and will until 2030. in the european union, the copyright extends til 2016. which is why the waitress at outback steakhouse won’t sing happy birthday to you. please mr. fifty, don’t sue me!
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we all remember exactly where we were when we heard the news. my friend shari called me from her car.
“eva mendes is pregnant!” she screamed. “she’s having ryan’s baby!!”
kim kardashian and i look sort of alike when we’re crying, although she is twenty years younger, has dark hair and a professional make up artist on call. otherwise, dead ringers when we heard the news! this, even though she’s so happy with ‘ye!
ryan gosling is the perfect boyfriend. kind, sensitive, loyal. he’s not the one who will break your heart, cheat with your former bff, or take off with the milk money. just look at ryan–does this man look like he could ever lie to his best gal?
he’s always sending me these messages because a perfect boyfriend is very supportive!
but even though he’s perfection itself, it just wasn’t going to work for us. i have to let him go because now he’s eva’s. i guess those rumors they had broken up were wrong!
no, ryan, you have to be strong!
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