facebook was originally a term given to the student directories that certain schools gave out to make remembering the name of the cute dude in calculus easier. harvard, where mark zuckerberg attended, didn’t have a facebook but several of the fraternities and sororities had their own individual facebooks.
mark played around with other similar applications, eventually hitting on what we now use as facebook. facebook sometimes makes us believe we have a rich and varied social life when we really haven’t even gotten out of bed all day. and facebook sometimes brings people together who wouldn’t normally interact. one of the surprises of my new years resolution to meet my facebook friends was discovering how different and yet how similar i am to my friends.
this past week i went to los angeles with two chaperones reggie gholston and vincent peters. i sometimes take chaperones because it’s a good safety measure.
one of the facebook friends i wanted to meet was #324 brandon day. he is a twentysomething genius who ran into a bit of trouble a few years ago when he experienced full on agoraphobia. it was difficult for him to explain to his family and friends what he was going through–panic attacks that made it impossible for him to get beyond the front door. i think with facebook people can connect and relate their common experiences and they don’t feel so alone or so weird.
and that’s an even more important application of mark zuckerberg’s genius than offering the world the opportunity to rate their fellow humans hot or not.
brandon’s genius is in the creation of phone apps, video games and whatnot. through the magic of facebook i am friends with sarah, whom i visited in detroit. she is agoraphobic. and she wants very much to create video games, which she oughta be real good at because video games is how she gets through her day. i introduced the two of them via facebook and when i met brandon we had a message for her.
brandon is working on a phone application and website to help agoraphobics like sarah and our fondest wish is that the three of us will be together for lunch in los angeles, detroit, chicago, london, paris, rome?
meanwhile, on the other coast, last night i received a message from facebook friend michele piersiak. she lives in staten island and has had trouble leaving the house for a year. i visited her and she felt i was “safe” to walk around the neighborhood with. we talked about major goals–hers is to become a psychologist who helps people with social anxieties. and then we talked about minor goals. i think of minor goals as the things that may sound silly to other people but they are building blocks for your major goal. michele’s is to have dinner at laconde verde, a restaurant in manhattan owned by robert deniro. there are reservations under my name for august ninth! in order to do that, she has had to make mini-goals of walking around her neighborhood on her own, going to shops and stores, using public transportation. just yesterday, she readied herself for the laconde verde lunch by going to lunch with facebook pal carolyn quinn. facebook matchmaking.
after saying goodbye to brandon, the chaperones and i headed for las vegas where we would ultimately end up with friendship tragedy. still, if our adventure could be a moviemash it would be “driving miss daisie” and “the hangover”. . .
July 18th, 2012 at 4:37 pm
The video is very encouraging for Sarah, and for me too. Maybe one day I’ll be able to step out of my confort zone and meet u there in the USA too?
Fb is indeed a great tool for those like us who rarely go outside and socialize. I have met wonderful ppl through social networks and I would love to meet them personally one day.
I hope the app for agoraphobics come out soon! 🙂
July 20th, 2012 at 3:48 pm
i just got that all important visa to brazil. came in the mail today! so i am free to start making plans. . . . now to find the dough!
July 18th, 2012 at 8:58 pm
I find the discussion on agoraphobia very interesting. I’ve had to spend most of my life jumping from iceberg to iceberg and never experienced a comfort zone (I do dream about it though – I think it would look like Ward Cleaver’s house). But I am empathetic in that during the last 30 years of teaching scuba, martial arts, and fire arms training, I’ve worked with many people that in some form of fashion undertook these activities to overcome some fear. In almost every situation, they freed themselves by doing something outside of their box and empowered themselves.
1. Go take a martial arts class (maybe with a private instructor).
2. Go to an indoor shooting range and learn to shoot.
3. Try a Scuba Expereince where a divemaster takes you hand in hand into the open water.
Fear is the mind killer, the little death. Please don’t waste any of your life as a prisoner to it. Try some of these things and see what a difference it will make.
July 20th, 2012 at 3:47 pm
overcoming fear is exactly what started this experiment. and now i’ve seen vegas!!!!
July 19th, 2012 at 2:06 am
I had a fabulous time meeting up with my FB Friend Michele Piersiak today – she is WONDERFUL! Arlynn, I’m glad you got the two of us together on FB. I love how Facebook has brought so very many fabulous people into my life!
July 19th, 2012 at 10:45 am
Prove for your self coconut magic … easy and taste 😉 ❤ but like… like a crazy old stick look for pleasures … I work like the devil and is nothing to do with the whiskey 😀
July 19th, 2012 at 11:52 am